There was this guy who loved two gals at the same time but he didn't know which one he loved more.
Someone taught him.
Ask yourself this question and answer it honestly :
"When you are happy, which gal would you want to share your happiness with?"
The one you think of is someone you love.
Ask yourself another question and answer it honestly :
"When you are sad, which gal you want to share your burden with?"
The one you think of is also someone you love.
If you think of the same gal when you are happy & sad, that's the most perfect.
But if you don't think of the same gal,
I would advise you to chose the one you are willing to share your sadness with.
In life, there are more sorrows than happiness.
There are too many people that you meet that you can share your happiness with,
not necessary your lover.
If you live your life happily, you can also enjoy it alone.
In sadness, however, there are not many people willing to share your burden with you.
If you are willing to tell someone your happiness,
I am sure that person has got to be someone close & an understanding person to you.
But it shouldn't stop there.
If that person only thinks of you when he is happy, but looks for someone else when he is sad,
this lover is too unstable, he doesn't treat you as someone he can spend the rest of his life with.
Of course, I will be very happy if I am the first person to share his happiness.
But, if he is sad, I will be too willing to stay by his side & ease his pain.
Only then, will I believe that I hold a very important position in his heart.
If you are sad, who comes to your mind first?